Since trading in my teenaged persona for that of a 20-something, it has dawned on me that things were becoming different, unfamiliar. I constantly find myself wondering, “what comes next for me?” while shaking my head at the once immaculate timeline in my mind. Now exists a vision of plans crossed out in red, dates scribbled in blue and ideas erased.
I’ve tried painting my room a new color, giving my sister most of what remained my “highschool wardrobe”, rearranging my desk, cutting my hair (TWICE), You get the picture. I think it’s important to also mention that my birthday was only 2 months ago… I can’t help but feel silly searching for reason.
Perhaps it’s the realization that time is ticking, and I am not invincible against the currents of time. Whether or not you choose to come along for the ride, time keeps rolling. It’s an eerie but pleasant truth.
Maybe it’s becoming who I am meant to be, whether I’m ready to or not, understanding that we all change and that is just a part of life’s mysterious generosities. If you were the same person that you were 5 years ago, wouldn’t that be dreadfully boring?
I figured I’d bring the discussion to the table as I’m sure I am not the only one, nor the last to feel rushed, confined and conflicted. Hoping to lend some advice for myself and others desperate for change…Below are some of my tips.
1. Don’t run for the scissors, WALK! Changing your hair is a great way to express who you are, but also can take a long time to grow if something has gone wrong. Make sure to utilize Pinterest and social media outlets, they serve as amazing tools for researching the look that will be right for you.
2. Find a color that compliments you, wear it as often as possible! I’ve recently developed a deep love for candy red.
3. Learn that in most cases, less is more. Interpret that how you will.
4. Do good for others and do well for yourself. I happen to think that it’s the niceties of human interaction that make a world of a difference.
5. Make sure your nails are always groomed. (Sans nail polish, this applies to guys as well.) This is said to be one of the first things a person takes note of, upon meeting.
6. Wear your confidence like a pair of heels. Slightly elevated, yet grounded.
7. Challenge yourself everyday. Whether it be at school, work, gym, even at home. It’s more than okay to be satisfied with WHAT IS, but important to look to what CAN BE.
8. Don’t lose sight of what’s important in life…The people. If I could go back and take a few from my past with me, I would. However, not everyone I come to love is meant to journey to every stage with me. True friends should be treated as special as they are, and for as long as they remain by your side.
9. Put your best foot forward, always.
10. You can always evolve and add wonderful new skills and traits to who you are, but don’t become someone you’re not. You are still you, even a few years later with a new hair style.