20 somethings: Transitioning into the second decade of life

Since trading in my teenaged persona for that of a 20-something, it has dawned on me that things were becoming different, unfamiliar. I constantly find myself wondering, “what comes next for me?” while shaking my head at the once immaculate timeline in my mind. Now exists a vision of plans crossed out in red, dates scribbled in blue and ideas erased.

I’ve tried painting my room a new color, giving my sister most of what remained my “highschool wardrobe”, rearranging my desk, cutting my hair (TWICE), You get the picture. I think it’s important to also mention that my birthday was only 2 months ago… I can’t help but feel silly searching for reason.

Perhaps it’s the realization that time is ticking, and I am not invincible against the currents of time. Whether or not you choose to come along for the ride, time keeps rolling. It’s an eerie but pleasant truth.

Maybe it’s becoming who I am meant to be, whether I’m ready to or not, understanding that we all change and that is just a part of life’s mysterious generosities. If you were the same person that you were 5 years ago, wouldn’t that be dreadfully boring?

I figured I’d bring the discussion to the table as I’m sure I am not the only one, nor the last to feel rushed, confined and conflicted. Hoping to lend some advice for myself and others desperate for change…Below are some of my tips.



Hair by AK Haircutters, (631) 451-3966

1. Don’t run for the scissors, WALK! Changing your hair is a great way to express who you are, but also can take a long time to grow if something has gone wrong. Make sure to utilize Pinterest and social media outlets, they serve as amazing tools for researching the look that will be right for you.


Cat’s Eye Sunglasses: Zara

2. Find a color that compliments you, wear it as often as possible! I’ve recently developed a deep love for candy red.


Grey Sleeveless Bodycon: Marshall’s, Alternative: Target


3. Learn that in most cases, less is more. Interpret that how you will.


4. Do good for others and do well for yourself. I happen to think that it’s the niceties of human interaction that make a world of a difference.


5. Make sure your nails are always groomed. (Sans nail polish, this applies to guys as well.) This is said to be one of the first things a person takes note of, upon meeting.


6. Wear your confidence like a pair of heels. Slightly elevated, yet grounded.

DSC_00087. Challenge yourself everyday. Whether it be at school, work, gym, even at home. It’s more than okay to be satisfied with WHAT IS, but important to look to what CAN BE.


MK Vanilla Crossbody, Similar: Nordstrom

8. Don’t lose sight of what’s important in life…The people. If I could go back and take a few from my past with me, I would. However, not everyone I come to love is meant to journey to every stage with me. True friends should be treated as special as they are, and for as long as they remain by your side.


White Ankle Strap Heels: Mandee, Similar: Asos

9. Put your best foot forward, always.


10. You can always evolve and add wonderful new skills and traits to who you are, but don’t become someone you’re not. You are still you, even a few years later with a new hair style.



  1. June 15, 2017 / 7:19 pm

    Working for you. You are beautiful inside and out.

    • June 16, 2017 / 12:14 am

      Thank you very much! -Isabel

  2. Joseph A Cavallo
    June 15, 2017 / 8:23 pm

    That is a wonderfully insightful look into your own persona and you make some terrific points regarding the journey of life. We as individuals must look at ourselves honestly and decide the kind of individual we are working toward becoming because, in truth, we are all the masters of our fate and , like it or not, we must try to be happy with what we made ourselves become. You’ve matured into a lovely intelligent young woman and I, for one, am very proud of you. Keep up the good work and continue to strive for the best you can be. There is an old saying that says, Good, better best. Do not rest until you make the good better and the better best.

    • June 16, 2017 / 12:19 am

      I’m not going to lie when I say this made me tear up a bit. After the day I’ve had I certainly needed to hear this, thanks Uncle Joe! I’m lucky and proud to say that you are an amazing influence on me and the person I’ve become. I credit all of those who continue to support and build me up, yourself and Aunt Sue being at the very top of my list! I love you so much. I will keep that as a mantra in mind, for sure.

  3. Joseph A Cavallo
    June 17, 2017 / 7:03 pm

    We love you very much too!! Just keep being you and don’t give up! Sorry for the bad day you refer to.

Leave a Reply